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A story.
It is 2006 and at the memorial of a man who died on the 6/6/06, a man stands up to give the eulogy
He opens saying "R was ...above all, a family man.."
One person sat a front knew that in fact it was a miracle they even kept their family. Never mind what an utter laugh that notion was in various other departments.
Because around 1971 the au pair of the children of that family had her own ideas about family and children... and what they were for..
The "family man" and wife so often off out social climbing, and boozing.... the young live-in au pair would often have her own evening entertainment with her lieges...playtime.
Taking at least one of the children - the oldest, into her bed for hours at a time so as he may 'play' with her.... the bit of her that likes a jolly long tickling session... hours on end "ohhh please help me with my terrible itch.." my, my, it would get claustrophobic and VERY hot under here blankets down at the site of her 'itch.'..
now.....over the years it would not even cross the mind of the firstborn to reveal that secret - hey you live on.... even if still the vision of his siblings - the look on their little faces as the lid of the black trunk was closed down on them, at the foot of the architect designed staircase that lead down into the dungeon - the sister in her chequered dressing gown, still haunts as if yesterday. rarely even a week goes by without it coming back so vividly, as a lesson.
Their look of fearful, troubled, consternation as their lovely au pair would guide them - the two siblings not in on this 'game', into the dark black antique trunk where she would lock them both in the dark for period of time she needed to play with one with undivided attention. Hours at times it would have been.... they must have been rather sweaty and claustrophobic in there too. As was the firstborn, his arm aching from all that 'scratching'.
The oldest son later on - early 90s having spent a few years miraculously with a friend and her young children and adoring every second and learning what real parenting was knew one thing: Whatever one does in life, do not ever ever desert any child - or farm them out to anyone, because the Gaynors may be everywhere... never mind that a real person wouldn't wish to. Every second with a child is delight. Life itself.
Whatever it may take in life make sure that a child is with its parents a heck of a lot of the time.... no matter what.
And a decade on became rather 'iconic' from 2004 in the public domain for just that. Successfully.
And in 2006 changing a whole legal culture that in fact assisted many thousand or more parents get far far better 'justice' from authorities. Or rather the authorities in the tens of thousands of instances they are called to a family every year, actually do what the law says and assist, rather than snatch away the children, in reality, for some rumour or false allegation. Or jealous neighbour looking in the basement window at Gaynor's fun and games...think they may cause trouble out of jealousy or whatever perverted reason as is so often the case in family 'law'. (not that anyone ever had anything on him - his parenting spotless even under the very hardest of circumstances, and never a penny in the bank)
Later that year two women would be outside a hotel in London - though not at the same time.
In the conference being held there - The Millennium, was the head honcho of the whole thing - he wrote this article later on.
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2017/02/12/divorced-parents-pit-children-against-former-partners-guilty/
Mr A D - head of cafcass.
He welcomed a child - only one, her aged 7 at that point, into that conference where even ministers were present and half the most senior judges in the land. As was her dad - after all the conference at £250 a ticket (his sponsored by the MP he was official delegate to) was essentially 'about' her...fathers celebrated reforms to their whole system.
His countenance - A D was friendly and full of charm for the special young girl he met that day. He delighted in her. Made her feel welcome. He knew exactly who she was, and how she was parented - so successfully, and attentively. And what her dad had done.
One of the two women was the mother of the family's only granddaughter, the other a woman named H* - later on to meet outside the hotel and say "goodbye". Supposedly such a lifelong fan of the earlier woman and her husband
Now let us fast forward to 2011. Though it is 2010 - bad acts that year, hardly anyone would believe. Especially if they saw any of the 100s of hours of 'protective' video taken from 2004-early 2010 of the girl - so much it could not be staged - where she is ALWAYS the life and soul, and top of the class, and always happy and so confident. A success in every conceivable way. As so many adults would comment over the years. Many to the camera...
But then we have the real secret. In truth far far more momentous in effect than that earlier one of the 'tickling' and worse.
A few years later Mr A D would write in the Telegraph how parents who break court orders were guilty of child abuse. Serious criminal emotional child abuse. (i think then article above is that one, if not there is another around the same time)
The year before 2011, UKs most famous High Court order was broken. 15 January 2010. A child was not returned to dad. As per most famous High Court public order, ever.
No reason in law. No social services case. Although one curious moment that spring when a woman told the father she was being "blackmailed" - by an arm of the state apparatus. But that is nothing, compared to...
At that moment - 2010, the child concerned - 11 years old, was essentially given a life sentence. Parental alienation (seen at that point - committed so angrily by the thieving family ) is a life sentence. As is estrangement. As experts have latterly come in and said it traumatises a child for life.
But another life sentence happened in 2011.
Sat by the local river one day just about alive after a year of the worst grief imaginable, a call comes in. It is the first woman.
she speaks as soon as the phone is answered " Hi Terry... ehhh ...about this weekend......" her tone is so so charming and almost happily excited. Victorious even.
She had not though realised she had dialled the wrong number. Not the number of the man she had clearly been complicit with, by her tone, in stealing the child from that child's father....the person she was actually speaking to. He just stayed silent, and then after a little hung up.
After all the man she thought she was speaking to was the man who clearly orchestrated that 2010 unlawful kidnap... he had a few weeks after January the 15th so so enjoyed attempting to hand over papers which actually were to give him legal parental responsibility for the child. Which no one asked him to. And despite the High Court 5 years earlier stating his household needed therapy, and that the father did not. And him - the mad thief step father, had conclusively LOST that case - he alone drove behind the scenes from 2002, in spite of their £100,000 + of legal aid, they unlawfully claimed as he was said to have some property and assets they hid pretending they (him and the mother) were no real couple...
Now, both these 'secrets' - one doesnt know really any more in Uk if ANYone has a conscience....but if they do, well, one supposes that if the woman concerned knew of them - the first series of events in the early 70s, and then 40 years later her being caught out with her Judas voice...
Maybe she would have a stroke and die...
And of course a wise man knows that once the action is done - beyond repair, what is the point of ever wishing that on anyone...even ones worst enemy.
"forgiveness" is living on - embodying being alive despite such death on two legs..... his mother.
And over the years since his life ended 15 Jan 2010 - 6 of them actually roofless living in tin cans, the other 7 only being able to afford an old flat so Rachman landlord badly converted that the damp and mould damaged his health.... but he wouldn't have it any other way. It gives one time to learn, know things...
...and knowing nevertheless that one good thing - an act, quite selfless really, that did indeed assist many - many many thousands of parents who may have had their children stolen from them, but due his work did not... is the only truly good act anyone in that sad little 'dynasty' of interior decorators and property speculators, ever did
One day the only grandchild must hear of item 2. Maybe item 1 as well. Several years ago a private webpage was created with a film on it. The father speaking about that 2011 Judas event. With no anger. Trying to find some philosophy in it. leaving it there as witness to a truth. Truth hurts but lies damage. As does a whole life that is a charade
A few people - mothers of this region, know of that page. Some are church elders. All are tough, no nonsense, and know right from wrong. They are unlike the woman referred to in here, of some honour. They said it is good that the true story is safely somewhere. They would never tell anyone else - they know that the purpose is to try and leave behind some useful truth. After all the young woman is highly intelligent. Literary. One day is going to be mature enough to know some real truth. probably need it, too
oh and to cap it all, a rather sad family member, in 2010, sent in by email to a lost old woman with some false medical information...
a slander .... serious though. Many would have had him in court for such a serious slander - alleging i had been on medication for mental illness. Interesting as I was a professional pilot with very rigorous medical records checks from my early adulthood. Should the young woman concerned ever see that piece of paper (treble backed up) - a public document as it happens, though likely hard to find, she would be horrified and have an entirely false story regarding, her father....
What really matters, only, is that a great story of how MANY MANY parents were helped by a few years her dad did mid 00s alone, no money ever, no help... reforming a whole can of worms... as many still say was quite necessary and important, and no one was as "revolutionary" a force as him... that force - changing a whole legal culture, (he did, quite alone) still alive as a concept last year when terrible acts of one council were shown on the BBC. (see main homepage)
He knew that he was just doing what he could so that maybe a few fewer kids were being left alone with dodgy child 'carers' .... or stuck in the middle of mad wars his own parents would let drag on for years - so booze fuelled that it is a miracle even more violence wasn't there - beyond the several violent incidents at least one kid witnessed.
And as for those who never lifted a finger to ever help her - the only grandchild, help her move beyond those bad acts of 2010...11...
well, history - or a back alley of it at any rate, may just query what the heck planet they were on....
