your taxpayer money.
Your truly dire journalism (fails ever to state - for reasons ...they love it, it keeps them in jobs, pensions and expensive London Cappuccinos, on expenses....paid for by your taxes...).
Your 'mental health' ...'crisis'...
Yours...
2006 one evening, after our 'day' in court...in a pub near the Royal Courts of Justice. Gathered in the twilight Esti ...dad, Pelling and Hockenjos....
Earlier in the day wandering the place with The Hock...him a spliff in hand because....well because he could... the conversation began. He is funny. Rather wonderful.
"the whole thing.... if i were a woman even now i wouldn't like to be the receiver of their sexist piggery...it is hardly modern.
"as the divorce rate started to climb in the 60s the establishment convened... how do we pay for this...she will end up on the dole surrounded by muddy faced nippers... we cannot have that- us paying for that...
"and thus they came up with a cunning plan: cut his goolies off in court or even better before... he becomes a 60 hour a week wage slave.... sees the children for 5 minutes a month only as we want him working...for her... he will be her forever cashpoint...
" problem solved..."
Now one could say all sorts of things about that and of course the rational and sane thing is that someone has to pay, of course, the state or taxpayer shouldn't pay for others failures...
But then a sane person knew even then never mind fast forward a few decades to places like nasty foreigner France where they put into lore that a person working less - 35 hours a week...is more productive...makes more lucre..
And a saner person may also factor in his spirit, soul, humanity is hardly likely to be that productive if he has no ...well 'love' to experience and make him raise his game... indeed those who hardly ever see a child are far more likely to end up with those ladies on the game...for simpler solace. And fuck her, Mrs cashpoint...
Never mind the one superb Woman's Hour interview about a decade ago, with the man who had his little problems... booze and drugs bubbling up into other bad behaviours... but it was so lovely him telling Jenni how when he saw his lass once a week he pulled his socks up, having washed them first, first time in a week....and ....well his behaviour adjusted automatically he was the love between him and his lass, and love is always a good force within even if at times it may have slightly wonky 'outcomes'.
I think they call this the zero sum game... though when he tosserati started to throw around clever dick phrases like that all sanity left the room...
Better thought of good for all concerned. Always... with of course the forever codicil-as long as mum isn't an axe murderer - as plenty of mothers do indeed chop their own flesh and blood up into little metaphorical pieces.
and who knows what are the greater 'harms' but some all seeing scientist who sees all, always, for life...
Never mind the only babysitter one can trust almost always more than a babysitter (my parents had one who committed gross criminal acts hahh hahh i don't think anyone else even knows... and my parents thought they were so so so parentish parents - plenty of dough for babysitters, all the boxes ticked....prior going out to the theatre... ) is the child's other blood parent.
Anyway it may be that this first of two 'principles' -in other words dinosaur sexist piggery of the fat whore loving establishment (i researched once - the whores say that most cannot even have normal sex, favour nurse or schoolgirl costume games)
One can hope -there seems to be some evidence, that gradually this sexist piggery abated ... though i wouldn't assume entirely... and i wouldn't assume it will stay a tad more balanced and unsexist piggery
point two -far more interesting and infact more the root of this legal case that is three really: THE beginning of default mediation. (my lass the first where that is publicly heralded even if it was a lie - there wasn't any in truth, other 'parties' sulked while me and their wonderful QC sent into save their asses... did actual time immemorial justice... THE first parenting agreement in writing ever. Publicly released as 'template' to others.
Both the above then a few years later became the foundation of form c100 reform -c100 is the basis of all the 200, 000 adults in dispute over kids... (and other cases such as where social services need to be involved) c100 was rewritten to make mediation and parenting agreements the absolute starting point by default. How sweet ...bully for us... Me and Ian Mackay (a bit) and...well esti was a miner so we can't credit her...and no one else can be credited as everyone else tried to block me so... me really...
And then item three ... THE...
well this is harder.
So the whole of UK is subject to this dinosaur first principle. Then there is a second gradual development- i suppose from around the 90s... earlier really but we were not entirely as cynical back then.
We all know about the Christine Keeler types and her interesting sidecick Mandy thingummy...
Well the establishment were not entirely stupid: "fucked up young women can be toyed with. Are weak. Are lost. Are confused. Lets have more of them !!! yes please...."..and boys of course too as this is UK...
"we could even CAUSE them to be more fucked up by employing the worst kinds of dross as lawyers child services etc to supposedly look after them... bravo cheerio lets have another Laphroaig... chin chin.. "
Which isn't entirely cynical -it cause great movies to get made at least like the Lindsay Anderson ... ehh and ... i dunno...
But then roll in the 80s 90s it all gets a little American...
"all those rather lesser classmates of yours... the ones who run lesser departments ... manage law firms... manage medical operations.... prisons... yes we could essentially privatise them too.... ehh all those 'services'... well the more really fucked up, drug addicted lost hurt young adults we have the better....your lesser classmates will get richer and they can afford to join us for Laphroaigs and pay their share of the bar bill... bravo... lets make sure the whole so called system of care and all that gobbledygook is so awful that we have an endless endless supply of the product... damaged folk to make money off.. the more damaged the easier it is to get cast iron court declarations to make it even easier for the care company owners to get guaranteed big fat pensions... bravo... another Dom ...62 you know.."
And this just gets worse and the fucker uppers even cleverer at never repairing any damage and ensuring and endless supply...
by for example ENSURING that very few families ever actually have continuity of social worker who is legally required to assist them... rather than screw up their lives even more which is what so often happens...
loadsa social workers per person...sounds great for the PR boys...
even if it is the one thing guaranteed to really ruin any chance of helping some family in a bit of a pickle...as you need one, who you trust and have a relationship with...
And this in one simple sentence, the two thigs that are the root of all psychology - good healthy attachments as a nipper, and a good healthy psychological environment for as many kids as possible, which just so happen to have been all my own foray into public was ever about, is the exact opposite of what any latter day chumocracy 'establishment' want. And they won....on your taxpayer dosh... poor you...cos your land is Affluenza times ten (my sidecick has been given it as homework just a few days ago). And your land is the product of a few decades of so many damaged people quite deliberately costing you an absolute fortune...
Calling out bad practice everywhere -from the local old p[people's home, to the local dreadful lazy GP who give 'jobs 'to dozens of their mates as greedy locum doctors who could just as easily take a normal wage and holidays rather than be locum with NO RESPONSIBILITY for 'outcomes' .... to dodgy lawyers (99% are by default) and truly useless judiciary...
is just something i opened up - making gagging injunctions NO LONGER THE ACCEPTED NORM.... or worse, the far more prevalent THREAT of being gagged or expensively shut up...i did by accident... when everyone else said it wasn't possible. because it had become the 'culture' - just like Panama Papers, and all that... the culture was the fatocrtacy tries to shut the other lot up...sosimple...so .. well still today.
And i laugh at how many have started to bleat now they think THEIR 'right' to free speech or calling out is somehow under some new threat...its been that way since about the time of Pilate or ...well i am quite sure the cavewomen did it too: " don't let her grunt grunt tell anyone his baby isn't his or there'll be trubl' at camp......cut her tongue out... grunt...ehhup dont forget to barbeque it theyre so tasty a bit of mantongue... "
In other words the fight to speak truth to power or the bully next door is time immemorial....or in my own case the last decade at times, the frauds who pretend to care about the environment and take many a public plaudit it be that when they just kill ...it... there will always be ways that some try and shut others up....
Nothing to do with me - no interest....except to show how at the pinnacle of shut the fuck up in respect of sweaty greedy office based people using the citizen for their pension and holiday spends... Majorca no longer good enough for them and thus they needed tons of hurt out of which to pay their wages...
In mid 00s at the pinnacle when injunctions, laws, and the rest were becoming the thing... the chumocracy had begun as their new favourite bloodspot. It didn't have to quite be that way. As everyone else but mad silly me, thought so... except for the slightly splendid Pelling who was still not operating in the only gear which ever achieves anything: "love... someone fucks with my love -the day in and out ever ongoing love, by trying to gag it.... well.... ALL the way til the wheels fall off and burn..." cos that's the only way you ever achieve anything with these cynical bastards ....snout in the trough of your self harming daughter's dipping blood... or son so scared of being a man he cuts off his own goolies (rachel Kusk the naughty girl so so genoiusly shows us with her Ultra trebble Booker deserving award winning deserving Mars room which is not about a bashed up babe as the intellectual pipsqueak Guardian of the last 10 or 15 years would relate, its UNIVERSAL: baddies will be baddies.. get over it...if you cannot fight... .... NEVER include pity in your genius prose.... one never learns from pity... and its funny i recant this often to folk.. they can no longer understand...even chief librarians ... )
They want...chaos and turmoil, and dysfunction. They make money from it. And then retire to other countries where childhood attachments and a healthy psychological environment for children, prevailed far far more, so that the orderly in their french or other European country old folks home is far less likely to be a sociopath who will inject them with something nasty just for fun...
In other words idiot hopeful innocents like me never had much of a hope in the longer run...but i do know one thing, the foundation of all is indeed the very tedious and rather dull need to always have as much freedom to speak out as possible and if anyone else in this turgid shopping Aisle has done as much as me on that the last few decades well i haven't heard about it...
Assange doesn't count. Politics and war and all that is so difficult. The family is at the root of all...mad psychopathic warmongers, anyway... as anyone who understands the basics of basic attachments knows...or did before they went and complicated all that, too...for their profit.
Simplify....someone once said.... then she complicated that, too...
but i listen. To even the 'enemy'.
